Awhile back I wrote a piece on some meaningful phrases that I've invented or adopted to use for getting me through this year. But only one I find I use more than any other, proclaiming, "I ain't arguing this year!" This one is a life changer for me. It appears the more I embrace this phrase, the more I'm put to the test to exercise it. Not to mention, tests come in varieties, multiple directions and unsuspecting sources. Nevertheless I find myself returning to my favorite rule of thumb....not arguing.
It's obvious when you're tired of the same recurring problem to shut down or ignore, this will cause you to not bother. But recently I've realized it could be used for other dilemmas such as perception. I recently went on an interview with a panel of 4 and I was told by The Insider, and I quote, "Word on the street is that I was cold and defensive in the interview." My reply was, "OK. Thank you." Here's where I pulled out my handy dandy favorite phrase, "Can't argue with that, now can I?" The Insider pushed to know how I thought I presented myself. Professionally. That's how.
Let me give a little background. My last interview was almost 6 mos. ago and the one before that was over 10 years ago! I had another interview after this one and was a little bit more relaxed. I didn't interview for the job I'm in now so I'm a little rusty...well a lot rusty. I lost lots of sleep preparing for this gig and they thought I was defensive and cold. I guess they wondered if I could "play well with others", who knows? And I really couldn't argue because the shit is true! I can be cold and defensive. Obviously it was perceived in the interview and The Insider warned that this could be a problem.
My Supervisor made me aware she was contacted by the dept I interviewed with and she answered questions honestly regarding my work ethics and disposition which may explain why I can be perceived as being cold and defensive. She said that I am by the book and departments have a hard time being told they can't do something against regulations.
Here's my take. I will be me. I will do what I am supposed to do....most of the time. Sometimes the chips just needs to fall where they may, people need to think what they must (right or wrong) and we need to just pick and choose our battles carefully. You can't argue all the time. Can you argue with that? Nope!
It's obvious when you're tired of the same recurring problem to shut down or ignore, this will cause you to not bother. But recently I've realized it could be used for other dilemmas such as perception. I recently went on an interview with a panel of 4 and I was told by The Insider, and I quote, "Word on the street is that I was cold and defensive in the interview." My reply was, "OK. Thank you." Here's where I pulled out my handy dandy favorite phrase, "Can't argue with that, now can I?" The Insider pushed to know how I thought I presented myself. Professionally. That's how.
Let me give a little background. My last interview was almost 6 mos. ago and the one before that was over 10 years ago! I had another interview after this one and was a little bit more relaxed. I didn't interview for the job I'm in now so I'm a little rusty...well a lot rusty. I lost lots of sleep preparing for this gig and they thought I was defensive and cold. I guess they wondered if I could "play well with others", who knows? And I really couldn't argue because the shit is true! I can be cold and defensive. Obviously it was perceived in the interview and The Insider warned that this could be a problem.
My Supervisor made me aware she was contacted by the dept I interviewed with and she answered questions honestly regarding my work ethics and disposition which may explain why I can be perceived as being cold and defensive. She said that I am by the book and departments have a hard time being told they can't do something against regulations.
Here's my take. I will be me. I will do what I am supposed to do....most of the time. Sometimes the chips just needs to fall where they may, people need to think what they must (right or wrong) and we need to just pick and choose our battles carefully. You can't argue all the time. Can you argue with that? Nope!
2 comments:
GTFOHWTBS!!!!!!
You just can't win. If you had gone in there talking all cray, shoo shooing and gigling then you would have been to casual and unprofessional. Pop in your gold teef and wear daniel green slippers on they ass next time.
See how they like sum shug avery pee in they lemonade?!
I might have gotten hired right there on the spot!
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